If you’re wondering how to manifest a boyfriend, you’ve come to the right place.
I’m going to lay it all out for you in seven easy steps.
These techniques have worked for me and friends of mine, so I’m confident that if you follow along you will be well on the path to finding the boyfriend of your dreams.
It might seem like love is out of reach right now, but I promise you it’s not!
How To Manifest A Boyfriend in 7 Easy Steps
1. Define Your Ideal Partner
Grab a pen and paper and list the traits, qualities and values of your ideal boyfriend.
This can include character traits, physical appearance, interests, core values and spiritual or religious beliefs.
It should also include non-negotiables and principles you want your partner to have.
These are the “dealbreakers.”
What is the man you want to manifest going to be like? Is he respectful? Faithful? Does he like to play sports or does he prefer quiet time with a book and an armchair?
Think about this man of your dreams, the man you’d like to build a future with.
- What does he focus on in his daily life?
- What type of career does he have?
- Does he have a good relationship with his parents?
- Is he independent? Intelligent?
As you list out these characteristics, do your best to be specific.
This will help bring clarity.
If you want to know how to manifest a boyfriend, you need to really focus on specificity.
Why?
Because this puts your intentions out into the universe and sends out the spiritual telegram that you are looking for love.
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The more clarity you have, the more your manifestation will have power to come true, because this is how the Law of Attraction works.
Your future boyfriend might not be exactly like this list, but by coming up with specific and detailed qualities you are also drawing a line in the sand for your own standards.
Once you have a well-defined ideal boyfriend, including his values and principles, it helps you to be better at selecting and choosing what is best for you when a guy comes along.
2. Know What You Have to Offer
Next up, make a second list of everything you have to offer your partner.
This shouldn’t be like when you go shopping, so you don’t need to write down that you’re 6 foot 3 or that you were prom queen once.
The point is to get a bit deeper than that.
Of course you can absolutely put write down the fact that you’re pretty and kind. But also dig deeper.
Write down your qualities that bring value to a man, for example:
- Your wisdom
- Your deep and loving feminine energy
- Your loyalty
- Good companionship
- Wicked sense of humor
- Your vulnerability
- Your ability to be patient and lead with your understanding
- Your respect for others
- Desire to share a life with someone
These things are valuable! And the right guy who you manifest is going to love the hell out of them!
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If you want to know how to manifest a boyfriend, you have to pay attention not only to what you’re looking for, but also to what you bring to the table.
This is because the cosmic channel is a two-way street.
You need to show up with value in order to attract value in return.
You also need to avoid showing up low value, because when you are showing up low value, you will not get a high value man. Instead, you’ll attract the narcissist, players, and the guys who just want to use you.
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3. Vibrate at the Frequency You Want to Attract
If you write down your intentions and then doubt it will work, you’ve already short-circuited the process of how to manifest a boyfriend.
This isn’t about just being “positive” or believing in your vision. You definitely have to do that, but those things are just the start.
You also have to vibrate and exist at the frequency of what you want to attract.
You’re not a lonely person seeking a mate, you’re a fulfilled and loved woman who is only getting what’s already hers.
Think of yourself as picking up some really snazzy clothes you ordered online from your favorite designer, except in this case the clothes are your brand new boyfriend and the e-store is the Universe.
Pretty cool how that works…
Let me be clear:
The Universe does not understand words, it understands vibrations. That’s why it’s necessary to vibrate at the frequency of what you want to attract.
Writing down the list of what you want in your boyfriend like we did in step one is about getting specific.
Vibrating and existing in a state of being that’s in line with the man you want is the next necessary phase.
If you want to attract love, you need to vibrate at the frequency of love.
If you are afraid of getting involved or getting hurt and you believe that relationships are destined to not work out for you, that’s more of what you will attract.
So have faith!
Look for the love everywhere in the world, even if the world seems depressing and dark.
Yes the world is dark and depressing, but it’s also loving, generous and giving. It’s just up to you to choose what to focus on, so that you can vibrate on the same level as your loyal and devoted new boyfriend.
4. Become the Person You Want to Attract
The truth about manifesting is that it’s a holistic process. It’s about much more than just “getting what you want.”
When it comes to how to manifest a boyfriend, you need to pay attention to the Law of Attraction.
In simple terms this means that you start drawing experiences and people toward you who reflect your inner reality and the way that you see reality.
It doesn’t mean that everything will come up roses if you’re positive, it just means that even in a difficult situation your positive vibrations will start to uncover hidden vibrations and opportunities for you.
This includes drawing those toward you who you want to attract.
If you want a high-caliber boyfriend, you need to be a high-caliber girlfriend.
A high caliber boyfriend will want you to be loyal, have self respect, be able to understand him as well as be loving and open to him.
This doesn’t mean that you can never be unhappy or angry – far from it. You can still be authentically angry or unhappy, because that’s how life is.
But the difference is: are you a woman with real values and who holds herself to the standard that she expects of a man too?
So, here’s what you can do – take a look at the list of everything you have to offer. What improvements can you make?
How can you love yourself more? Respect yourself more? Hold yourself to a higher standard or stick to your core values?
Work on your self-esteem and self-love, love yourself the way you would like to be loved.
You can use these positive affirmations to be more confident and boost your self-esteem:
- I deserve to be happy.
- I make healthy choices.
- I deserve love and I choose love now.
- I allow myself abundance and prosperity.
- I believe in myself; I can and I will.
- I walk tall, with confidence and security.
- I see the world through the eyes of love and acceptance. All is well in my world.
- My life flows better with each passing day. New opportunities arise at every moment.
- I am aware of who I am and I don’t need to prove my worth to anyone.
- Today nothing, nobody, and no situation can irritate or destabilize me. I choose to be at peace.
- I free myself from any need for struggle or suffering. I deserve all that is good.
- I know that I can find the solution to every problem that I may encounter or create.
5. Shut Down Negative Scripts In Your Heart and Mind
Negative self-talk and self-limiting beliefs can be like TNT for relationships.
They blow up the potential foundations for having a healthy relationship before you even get a chance.
Here are some typical negative scripts and inner beliefs that you need to blast before you can move on:
“Men are no good”.
“Love is not for me”.
“I’m going to die single.”
“Every man betrays me in the end.”
Phrases like these are beliefs rooted mainly in childhood and/or previous trauma in toxic relationships.
I understand that your past experiences may look like they prove your negative mental scripts to be true.
But there is another reality out there waiting for you, if you choose to seek and embrace it.
Eliminate phrases like this from your vocabulary and reframe these beliefs through mental reprogramming.
Everything we experience emanates first from our beliefs and is filtered through them.
It’s like a contact lens, we see the world through the contact lens we put on.
So if your contact lens is that men suck, then that’s all you’ll see.
6. Visualization is a Key to Your Love Future
Making a vision board and sticking images on it is a practice that I just love.
This gets all your future plans and ideas out in the open and helps them come true.
The next time you see that guy reading Dostoyevsky on the subway you’ll think of how he matches the photo just like the one you put on your vision board, and just about jump out of your skin!
It doesn’t have to be photos, either.
You can visualize emotions, landscapes, a house where you and your boyfriend live, or vacation spots where you spend time.
Visualize and emotionally feel the sensation of being with him and knowing that you’re a couple.
Visualize scenes, moments, feelings and dinners and reflect on how they make you feel.
This isn’t just idle fantasy, it’s you weaving the invisible threads that will bring you to the right guy.
7. Don’t Build Your Life on Expectations
One of the most important things to keep in mind when it comes to how to manifest a boyfriend is that manifesting is not the same as building up expectations.
If you expect and hope for a boyfriend to come your way, you are seeking from a place of lack.
Manifesting is about creating from a place of overflow and abundance.
So let the expectations for Prince Charming subside a bit and focus on making yourself happy and building up the solid foundation for the good man who will come your way.
After all, what would be the point if he showed up but you weren’t even ready?
What if he’d been trying to manifest a girlfriend and met you, but he could tell you were still trapped in negative scripts and lower vibrations?
No, no…we don’t want that, do we?
You want to be right up there soaring with the eagles beside him.
The Universe Conspires in Your Favour…
So now it’s time to start visualizing and attracting the boyfriend you deserve into your life.
Put all the above steps into practice and watch the magic happen.
Keep in mind that you should not try to manifest a boyfriend who is a specific man that you know.
Why?
The reason has to do with the concept of free will.
He needs to have free will and if you put out strong energy and intentions to try to energetically draw him toward you it can create unintended backfiring effects.
In other words, if you “invade” the energy field of the other person, that invasion energy will reach your own life in some way and come back at you.
Instead, focus on manifesting a boyfriend with specific qualities and appearances who you haven’t yet met.
Let him come to you out of the infinite possibilities that exist.
You might be surprised at who you find!
Author footprint: Paul Rowan Brian is a freelance journalist, author and writer from Canada. He’s written for Ideapod, Hack Spirit and Love Connection and is focused on culture, relationships and self-development. You can follow him on Twitter @paulrbrian.