If you’re wondering how to make him miss you, the answer is simple.
Build high levels of emotional attraction and emotional connection, and he will miss you.
It’s not about playing little mind games with him, but rather, build genuine emotional connection and emotional attraction.
Then you can always be sure he will miss you when you’re apart, because your bond is irreplaceable.
Step #1: Create and maintain a strong emotional connection.
According to a study performed by psychologist Seth Meyers in Psychology Today, creating and maintaining an emotional connection with your partner is key for having a successful and fulfilling relationship.
When you do that, you create a feeling of closeness, and he’ll look forward to being around you and talking to you. And when you’re apart, he’ll miss that connection, and want to be around you again.
Here are the three main steps for how to build and maintain a strong emotional connection with your man:
- First, focus on creating emotional intimacy. This involves sharing experiences, thoughts, and feelings with each other.
When you share your thoughts and feelings with your man, it can create a deeper connection and understanding between the two of you.
Not only that, but it can make him feel truly seen and understood by you. - Secondly, share different emotions together. Get comfortable overcoming challenges together and talking about vulnerable moments together is one sure way to make him feel a strong emotional connection to you and therefore miss you.
- Thirdly, but arguably most importantly, build banter with him. We call this high value banter.
High value banter is banter built through playful remarks that bring excitement to the table and build an emotional connection.
Why does banter build emotional connection?
Because men intuitively understand and go to banter. It’s how men like to communicate, and it’s also how they can easily form emotional closeness with you.
You communicate in a way that he understands, and that inspires him to be more drawn to you and inspired to be emotionally attached to you.
For examples on how to create high value banter (and high value banter lines that you can copy and paste), you can take David’s FREE high value banter class here.
Step #2: Build positive associations
When you do good things for him and make him feel good, he will create positive associations with you and with the experiences he shared with you.
Positive associations are important because they allow your partner to remember you in a positive way.
According to Meyers, studies have found that a person is more likely to miss you if they associate you with positive things like adventure, good conversation, intelligence and fun.
Studies have also shown that when people repeatedly have positive experiences with someone, they become more likely to miss them in their absence.
So try to create as many positive associations with him as possible, and he will be missing you in no time.
Additionally, when you make him feel good around you, he will remember how it feels to be with you and will start longing for those moments again.
So how do you create positive associations?
Try to do something special together or come up with activities and conversations that allow for shared memories and closeness.
For example, going for a walk together or having a deep conversation can increase the bond between the two of you and he’ll begin to miss that shared moment when you’re not around.
You can also build positive associations with you in his mind and body by:
- Complimenting him
- Expressing gratitude; or
- Simply just being supportive and caring.
Related reading: 19 Spiritual Signs Your Twin Flame Is Missing You.
Step #3: Be emotionally present when you’re together.
How to make him miss you? Offer the gift of your presence!
When you’re in the same room or interacting with each other, focus on the moment and be emotionally present.
Make sure you’re listening, responding naturally, and actively engaging with one him.
This will create a strong emotional connection, making it easier for him to miss you when you can’t be together.
It sounds trite but presence really is that important when you want to make a man miss you.
This is because presence is rather rare, especially the gift of a woman’s presence to a man.
Many men struggle to get the genuine attention and love of a woman.
Also, many women look for what they can take from a guy and forget to just be there.
It’s a gift that will last a lifetime, and it will make him miss you to boot.
Step #4: Maintain a bit of mystery around you.
A bit of mystery and unpredictability can be an effective way to make him miss you.
Studies conducted by John Gottman and Robert Levenson at the University of Washington show that relationships which have a bit of mystery, unpredictability and complexity tend to be more exciting and endearing to their partners.
According to the studies, this could create a sense of longing in your partner, prompting him to miss you when you’re not around.
How do you create mystery?
There are effortless ways and there are ways that require a little more energy on your part.
Let’s start with the effortless ways:
- Simply relax into your natural feminine nature. As a woman, your energy and emotions change with your monthly cycle and with your environment.
These changes throughout your cycle will ensure that he has a different woman at different parts of the cycle. Sometimes she’s more warm, energetic and approachable.
Other times, she’s more quiet, reserved and mysterious.
If you’d like to discover how naturally feminine you are at your core, you can take our free quiz: QUIZ TIME: Are you truly living in your feminine energy? CLICK HERE to find out with my specially crafted 9 Question Quiz! - Another effortless way is to develop different parts to yourself. Allow yourself to be multidimensional.
This means that you can be dark feminine and light feminine, and you can be kind yet firm.
This will inspire him to connect with you on multiple levels.
Now for the more effortful ways:
Try to keep things interesting by not disclosing too much information about yourself and your life.
Share tidbits and snippets here and there, but keep some things a mystery.
He will be fascinated by trying to figure out the parts of you that he doesn’t know. It will also make him curious to learn more, creating a strong longing to be around you again.
Step #5: Create space.
Another simple way to make him miss you is to create some distance between the two of you.
Research conducted by John Gottman and Robert Levenson at the University of Washington found that distance and absence actually can increase the intensity of a relationship.
The research found that when couples had physical and emotional distance for short periods of time, it increased their longing for one another and created a greater bond between the two.
So, if you’re looking to make him miss you, consider creating some space between the two of you.
Whether it’s by taking a short holiday or just taking some time away from each other, absence can make the heart grow fonder, and it may help him miss you more.
Of course, it is important to find a balance between too much and too little space, so as not to suffocate or distance your relationship too much.
(You don’t want to try so hard to make him miss you that you end up pushing him away).
So the key is to remember that you don’t need to stay apart forever; just give yourself some time away from your man.
Give him time to miss you and miss the connection you share.
Remember to leave your heart open and stay emotionally available to him when you aren’t together; this will help him to still feel connected to you and help him miss the moments with you.
Step #6: Show yourself some love.
The final step in how to make him miss you is to take care of yourself first.
Why?
Because you can’t offer any real value to your relationship with a man if you’re not filling yourself up outside of the relationship.
So:
Show yourself some love by taking time to do things for yourself.
You can do things such as:
- Reading a good book
- Catching up on the latest Netflix series
- Try out a new hobby; or
- Indulge in a relaxing bubble bath
A little self-care can go a long way in showing your man how important you are to you and allowing him to miss being with you.
Final Words
Making a man miss you can be challenging, especially since you cannot actually control how a man feels, you can only inspire him to feel emotionally connected and attracted to you.
But learning these six simple steps can help strengthen your relationship and remind him of why he fell in love with you in the first place.
Mastering the art of creating emotional connection, creating positive associations, maintaining a bit of mystery, and creating some space are all invaluable techniques that can help to make your man miss you when you’re apart.
In addition, don’t forget to show yourself some love by taking time off to recharge and do the things you enjoy.
Doing so will make you more empowered, confident and ultimately make him more attracted to you.
Penny is a writer and part time dating coach. She lives in Brisbane, Queensland with the love of her life, their two daughters and their three dogs. Penny is passionate about helping women realize their high value and harness the innate feminine energy that they were born with.