How Can I Stop Envying?

By McKrae Game

Green Envy EyeLast year I had a guy come to me that I had seen once before.   Right off the bat, he wanted to know what Bible verses I could give him to focus on so he could stop envying.  That’s it.  He didn’t want my opinion on how he could better control this, but Bible verses.  “Hmmm”… I thought.  I said to him, as I wondered why he didn’t just Google this, “I know there are verses on envy, but I don’t think it’s possible to ever get to where you don’t envy, and not all envy is bad.  There are some things you can do to help.”  I said a few more sentences along the lines that I’m going to share here.  He put up his hand, said, “I’m done,” and got up and walked out of the office.  Then he called our Men’s Ministry leader and told him he wouldn’t be back.  Wow!  I had never had this happen.  I thought for the longest time, where and how I was wrong and how I could have handled that.  I concluded that I was being honest and he didn’t want honesty.  The Lord is with him though, and will guide him.

1Peter 2:1 Therefore, rid yourselves of all malice and all deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and slander of every kind. 2 Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation, 3 now that you have tasted that the Lord is good.

With any scripture, I say, “I believe.”  However, I’d also say that unless we plan to get rid of all of our electronics, TV, computer, smart phone, gym membership, car, and wear a set of blinders and a heavy set of ear protectors, I don’t believe we can completely overcome envy.

With envy, I’m comparing myself with someone to whom I feel inferior in my muscles, or looks, intelligence, charisma, or wealth, etc. My appreciation of any of those areas can turn into envy that borders coveting, and in homosexuality becomes worship or idolatry. That’s where we need to be alert and accountable. Unless I become Mr Olympian myself, I’ll probably always envy muscular buff guys. I’ve just learned that I need to say, like my ever straight friends, “Wow!” or “good for them.” I’ll do my best so that I can, within reason, time, and ability, look and feel they way I want to.”  I put myself under accountability that I don’t look at shirtless men online or in magazines (porn to me).  I also, if possible, will go over and get to know them if I see them in person. This is a huge help!

There’s much good in seeing godly, charismatic men, that know the Bible more and are on fire for God, and yes, are in better shape than I am.  That’s a motivator for me to grow and get off my butt and do something with my life!  I can be like them! I’ve had and have men like this the past 20 years that have motivated me to be a better, more godly man. I think of men like Tyler Kirby, Randy Hahn, Sam Hunter, John Lankford and many more. Do I envy them? Yes. I started running and having a daily quiet time because of Randy Hahn.  I wanted to become on fire for God, like Tyler Kirby.  I wanted to get to know the Bible, like Sam Hunter.  I wanted to get in shape and speak for God, like John Lankford.  They and many others were and still are role models that have inspired me to be a better man. Instead of our envy or attractions being our downfall, may we use them to motivate us.  Everyone I believe, has same-sex attractions.  It’s called admiration.  For some of us, especially when we do nothing, envy can become worse to the point of idolatry, the more we watch verses act.  Let’s stop watching!  Let’s DO something!  Get to know them!  Let’s get off of our butt and DO something!  Let’s move toward becoming the man we see in them that we wish we could see in ourselves!

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:13 KJV)


Source: Interim DirectorBlog

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