I am writing to you because I want to share great hope for your precious family as you face the traumatic reality of homosexuality in a loved one’s life. Whether you learned of this with your son or daughter, grandson or granddaughter through a declaration or a discovery, I have walked the road you are walking now. The fact that I am writing to you now is proof that God already knew how this would all work out. He is able to use your experience and my story to reach someone else who is hurting.
There have been many times in my life that I have experienced great pain. Two times, however, stand out above all others because of the pain that my children suffered. In 1989, my son confessed to me that he was involved in homosexuality. In 2000, my daughter and son-in-law lost their three-month-old baby girl, Natalie, to SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome). In both situations, I felt totally alone, isolated, full of failure, grief, and despair.
It was 1991; I was driving, weeping, and crying out to God for my son when a song came on the radio. It was as though the volume went up and the words “a miracle is about to happen” came through the speakers. The fact that I heard what was on the radio, in such a state of grief, tells me that God meant for me to hear it. It was that very night that my son told me he had accepted Christ into his heart. He knew it was real, and he believed God would heal his life.
He told me later (after he married his beautiful wife, Julie) that Christ was leading him to a ministry that would lead others out of this lifestyle. We discussed the consequences of going public with such a ministry. I asked him why he felt like it was necessary to share openly about his past.
His answer to me was, “Mother, if I could help give back a son or a daughter to a parent, would it not be worth it?”
How could I argue with that?
Hope for Wholeness was born out of the answer to that question. It is absolutely worth it. I support Hope for Wholeness both prayerfully and financially. Great things are happening as I write. The men’s ministry is growing as men have someone to talk to, are finding answers to their questions, and experience healing through a relationship with Jesus Christ. There is also a women’s ministry led by Miranda Pettit that is helping change lives. There are other support groups and satellites across the Carolinas and into Georgia, but the group I am most excited about is the family & loved one’s ministry led by Bill and Phyllis Creech. When I was going through this nightmare, I had no one I could talk to, trusting that they could understand or relate to my pain.
The Hope for Wholeness board is made up of committed church leaders, Christian counselors, and Christian business professionals. They each serve Hope for Wholeness with passion and integrity. This ministry is a member ministry of Exodus International. Exodus is a coalition of churches, professional counselors and other ministries like Truth which offer grace, compassion, and Biblical truth to a world impacted by homosexuality.
My son tells his groups, “My mother never accepted my homosexuality. She never stopped telling me it was wrong.”
I did not have anywhere to go for answers or support, so I responded hysterically. I wish I would could say that what I did or said was instrumental in my son’s conversion. Looking back, I’m thankful to say that I did not get in the way by showing acceptance of his behavior. My son says that would have confused and frustrated him more. He says that he did not want these thoughts, feelings, or desires. He had no one else to talk to either. McKrae answered God’s call on his life to be the person that he never had while he was going through this.
There is so much more. McKrae, Miranda, Bill, and Phyllis, and all of the other ministry leaders eagerly desire to help you in your situation. There is so much hope! God hears your prayers now just as he heard mine. Do not grow weary! I challenge you as one who has been where you are, to not remain silent and alone, but to reach out and allow someone to help you in your time of need.
If you are in a position to help my son with Hope for Wholeness’s needs, please consider doing so. Truth does have many expenses as they spend a great deal of time and resources attempting to accomplish this God-sized goal. Would you consider giving to Truth? It would be a great help if you could help them obtain aid from your church or other individuals or organizations. As you can imagine, it is difficult to get funding for a ministry that is going against the tide of popular culture.
Please prayerfully consider how you can help Hope for Wholeness, and how they can help you.
And no matter what happens, never give up. Whatever you do, keep praying for that miracle.
With sincerest hope,