A Different Slant On Marriage
Read Genesis Chapter 2
Ge 2:20 But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, He took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib He had taken out of the man, and He brought her to the man. 23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”
With all the hoopla surrounding the issue of gay marriage that is prevalent today, it is time for us to discuss the issue. There is no question but that it is a topic on which men will never come to an agreement. Divisions on the issue will persist until our Lord returns to bring a halt to our world as we know it. In the above passage, it is quite obvious that the first marriage in all of history was created and established by our Creator. From this passage we can conclude that God is the Author of the institution of marriage. Adam is mentioned as her husband in Genesis 3:6. The first notable “rule” involving marriage (NIV) – that I could find – is from this verse:
Dt 23:2 No one born of a forbidden marriage nor any of his descendants may enter the assembly of the LORD, even down to the tenth generation.
In this passage, the “forbidden marriage” would obviously be one which did not have God’s approval. I could speculate as to what a forbidden marriage was at that time, and as you know I am prone to speculate, but I won’t do that here. All of what I have written up to now has been to establish a very important fact: God is most certainly the One who established the institution of marriage. I believe we can therefore conclude that the only true marriages which exist are those which have God’s stamp of approval.
We can further know, and probably agree, that somewhere along the course of human history marriage became a contract approved by government. More than likely, at that time there were few differences, if any, between the government’s and God’s standards of marriage.
At some later point in time, governmental authorities began to change the ‘rules’ for marriage. For example, in OT times, it was not unusual for a man to marry close kin. But some standards for marriage today forbid that. The main emphasis on marriage today is almost totally defined by governmental regulations and standards. When our county government issues a marriage license, there is little if any consideration given to God’s standards. Does that piece of paper legitimize a marriage, or does it take God’s approval to legitimize a marriage? Let’s look at two more biblical references, and then we will try to come to a conclusion.
Heb 13:4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
1Co 7:12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
I’m going to get bold here. This passage from 1 Corinthians would indicate that when a child is born to a believing couple, or to a couple which includes ONLY ONE believer (a Christian), that child is “clean,” or “holy.” Here is my main conclusion for today. No matter what kind of marriage certificate a couple may have in hand, if God has not given His nod of approval to it, it is not a valid marriage in His sight. Therefore, it really doesn’t matter what any government says about marriage. For that reason, I would say that there are many heterosexual marriages which are not marriages in God’s eyes, and certainly none of the same-sex marriages are legitimized under His authority.
Stated another way, a marriage certificate issued by a county office is either one of two things: 1 – A symbol of a union which God has created, or 2 – A worthless piece of paper. I fear that more marriages in existence today are in the latter category.
Prayer: Father, we simply want to be sure that we are in right-standing with You. Your word indicates to us that marriage is a sacred thing in Your eyes. Give us firm understanding into this issue, that we will not make any mistakes in our judgments.